Lori S. Rubenstein, JD, CPC spent 18 years as a divorce attorney-mediator and will tell you she quickly ascertained that the court system is not a healthy environment for families. Her passion for helping others led her down the path of relationship and divorce coaching, where she realized Forgiveness was the cornerstone of all her work. As a Forgiveness Teacher, Divorce Coach, Mediator, Author, Regression Therapist and Inspirational Speaker, you will find Lori walks her talk.
Lori’s special gift is helping people to see new perspectives so they can step into a new, more empowering life. Lori has a unique ability to hold the space for healing to occur, and you will find she carries the torch of practicality as well as the spiritual aspects of forgiveness, acceptance and compassion. Her primary mission is to help people heal from the hurts caused by relationships or as Lori calls them, “spiritual partnerships.” Lori’s unique outlook on painful life experiences is enlightening and refreshing. She helps people see that what they call “tragedy” can in fact, be the soul’s greatest gift.
Lori has been twice divorced and today is happily remarried, her children are grown and she lives a life filled with love and laughter. She is available to speak or lead a retreat in your community or to your group by telephone or webinar.
Here is a personal note about Lori and how she got to be a divorce coach and forgiveness teacher:
As long as I can remember, I fought for the underdog. I defended other kids in school from bullies, probably because I was such a misfit when I was younger. I was raised by a white-Jewish teen mother in the projects in Irvington NJ. I was strong and independent from the start, I had to be.
As a teenager, that independence sported a wild spirit, a mixture of “I’m not good-enough” with “I know more than anyone else.” In other words, TROUBLE! Thankfully, my mother found a drug treatment center for me, where I spent my sophomore year of high school learning concepts like, “no free lunch,” and “I create my own reality.” This foundation anchored me for a life path of “seeker” and “personal growth.” Questioning authority and standing up for what I felt was important were not only passions, but were my MUSTS.
I planted myself firmly in the feminist and anti-domestic violence movements where I found a comfortable home for my activism. As an attorney, I worked to change laws and local policy around domestic violence issues and I learned that I could make a real difference in the lives of clients going through divorce. I did not like fighting in an adversary system that pitted family members against each other. I learned that when people stepped into forgiveness, lawsuits settled and children were gifted with better parents!
The next step for me was moving into mediation, naming my business “From Conflict to Creative Solutions.” I was all about helping families limit their pain, learn from their mistakes, and forgive. As a child of divorce myself, I did not want any other child to witness and bear the burden of their parents non-stop fighting. You can say at 4 years old, the time of my parent’s divorce, my destiny was being formed.
I am still mediating conflicts, but I realized there was another level of healing for me and my clients. I didn’t realize that I was literally helping people mend from broken hearts, until I went through my own divorce. I helped myself get through the pain of my own divorce, learned that the feelings of low self-worth combined with my own child-hood self esteem issues, and I understood all of it needed to be healed in order to have a healthy future. Forgiveness was the key. More specifically, SELF-FORGIVENESS changed my life. It gave me the ability to know I can be hurt and heal from that hurt. It taught me it was ok to knock down the walls I built around my heart, and that I would still be safe.
Today, I live by my own teachings. That does not mean I won’t be hurt, angry, upset, but it does mean I have the tools and the courage to process through it quickly. I am proud to say that I teach what I live by.
Among many accomplishments, Lori is most proud of:
- Divorce Coach Trainer for Impact Coaching Academy
- Ambassador for Shared Hope International
- Member of the Sedona International City of Peace
- Facilitator for Restorative Justice, Healing of Memories Workshops and the Sedona Women’s Institute
- Working in the domestic violence field on and off for 30 years and helping to write impactful legislation in 4 different states
- Starting a Women’s Center in College which lasted for over 20 years
- Hosting Journeys from the Heart, a Sedona Talk Radio Show
- Receiving the National Association of Women Business Owners with an Entrepreneurial Excellence Award as a Trailblazer in her field.
- Single Parenting
- Being Courageous enough to leave a successful profession and follow her heart to move to Arizona and to start a coaching practice
- Physical feats such as skydiving, scuba diving, fire-walking and rappelling down the side of a volcano in Portugal, and hiking Huaynu Picchu in Peru.
Skills and Trainings:
- – CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate for Abused and Neglected Children) Volunteer
- – Hospice Volunteer
- – Healing of Memories Workshops (for Veterans in the US)
- – Deeksha (Oneness Blessing) Giver
- – Past Life and In-Between Life Soul Regression Therapist
- – Restorative Justice Facilitator
- – Reiki Master
- – Reflections Giver
- – Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
- – Sedona Method
- – Studied and taught The Tao for almost 3 years
- – Certified Professional Coach from Academy for Coach Training
- – Graduate of Relationship Coach Institute
- – Graduate of Anthony Robbins Mastery University and Leadership Academy
- – Certified Mediator – Confluence NW
- – JD – Law Degree from Antioch School of Law (now DC School of Law)
- – BA Social and Health Resources – U. of Nevada, Reno
Enjoy this little video that gives you a better idea of who I am and what it would be like working with me: