The monthly theme for forgiveness this month is working with politicians and forgiveness. I called it “Forgiving Politicians…an Oxymoron?” I did this because I was angry and frustrated and I knew if I needed to heal this anger, others might too.
There were a lot of things I was mad at, disappointed with, frustrated about and even embarrassed for our country because our leaders are so childish and uncaring.
But One of the main issues I was super upset about was that they all got stuck in their positions like little kids, stomping their feet, screaming at the other members of congress, the president, “listen to ME!” They would not negotiate or compromise. If they could not get their way, everyone would suffer. As taxpayers, we don’t have a right to fire them; rather, they get paid even when they fail to do their job.
Ohhh I’m a forgiveness coach and I am holding onto this anger. I’m getting triggered big time. So, I realized I was forgetting something. A very important question. What was going on inside me that was reflecting this pain back to me?
Dang it! I took a deep breath and realized that I am always wanting my husband to understand and see things MY WAY! And then, Ohhh, that’s how I am with my son. And then, Dang it again, that’s how I am with my daughter, my mother, my father. GULP! Seriously!
I was STUCK on step 2 in the Living with Forgiveness Process. Step 2 is taking Personal Responsibility. That can be taking action or taking responsibility for my FEELINGS about the situation.
The words of St Francis hit me hard and I got it!
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
May I seek to understand! My personal responsibility is to heal this by seeking to understand others rather than to be understood!
While I’m not PERSONALLY RESPONSIBLE for the politician’s poor behavior, I am Personally Responsible for how I feel and how I act as a result of what they are doing. When I do this, I will no longer feel like a victim. So today I choose to change my own behavior. I’ll let you know how it goes.
Enjoy this audio class. I hope it helps you to find forgiveness and peace during this contentious political season.