Divorce Healing Starts Right Now with a complete 7-step process (Each is designed according to YOUR needs)
Divorce Recovery Coaching can help you to transition from being a family into being a happy, healthy, well-adjusted single person. I know, that seems impossible right now, but it is not. Somewhere inside of you there is a glimmer of hope and faith that maybe your life really is not all over. Just maybe, there is help out there that will REALLY make a difference. I know, I have been there and I can help you get through this seemingly impossible transition. I will help you deal with the losses suffered from divorce.
My background as a divorce attorney-mediator, trainer of other Divorce Coaches at IMPACT Coach Training, and as a divorced single mother, gives me unique insights into both the legal and practical day to day realm of divorce will give you an edge in not only recovering from your divorce, but in the following:
negotiating your way through the legal system and even knowing what to ask for, what to compromise on, and what are realistic expectations
communicating better with your soon-to-be ex spouse
supporting your children through the losses they are suffering
co-parenting with your children’s other parent
how to create necessary boundaries with your ex
learning more about how to survive as a single person
begin to create a new life for yourself, one that is whole and personally satisfying. And may I say, even joyful!
forgiving your ex, family members, and even yourself.
I believe there is no one-program fits all, so I would like to talk to you about the options and what works best for you. E-mail me HERE and I will set up a time to talk to you about what I can offer you.
One sample program I offer is the Personalized one-on-one coaching, in person, by telephone or skype, with me 3 times a month, leading you through the 7 step Divorce HEALING process:
Exhaustion and Energy Drains Addressed
Acceptance and Self-Discovery
Liberation from old thinking, belief and action patterns
Integrating a life of Integrity and Inspired Actions
Non-stop passion and personal development
Growth and Emergence of your new ‘transcended’ self
Step 1. Holistic Assessment
We will begin with a 2 hour initial intake session that will provide you with a serious reality check of where you are right now. We will deal with all emergencies, evaluate where you are in the legal system, finances, parenting and your own mental and physical health. If necessary, I may be referring you to a mental health specialist, physician, attorney, mediator, custody evaluator, financial planner or additional supportive persons.
We will examine whether your foundational needs (ie. Food, sleep, etc) are being met and if not, we will make sure they are met. Obviously, you can not heal if you are sleep deprived.
Step 2. Exhaustion and Energy Drains Addressed
Probably the most exhausting element of divorce is the story you tell yourself in your head. We will deal with patterns of self-abusing thoughts, what I call “gremlins” (negative self-talk). We will work on eliminating the need to blame others for your situation. You will learn to recognize and understand your feelings and not let your emotions run you. We will review and eliminate energy drains, tolerations, “shoulds”, and clear clutter from your life. Effective action plans to effectively deal with these issues will be developed.
Step 3. Acceptance and Self-Discovery
We will continue dealing with ‘gremlins’, shoulds, frustrations and energy drains. Other issues to be dealt with during this period are dealing with overwhelm, developing boundaries, looking at any issues around co-dependency, clearing clutter, and looking at your divorce from a more realistic perspective. You will start using positive language when speaking about your situation and start seeing your situation from a new perspective.
We will start looking at who you are and who you want to be. Examining and developing new values and rules that best serve a NEW you. The YOU that you wish to be. You can actually start the process of dreaming about the future.
Step 4. Liberation from old thinking, belief and action patterns
This is where you start moving into the place of peace, through taking personal responsibility for your part of the breakup and by letting go of blame and resentment. You actually start to shift your reality by opening up to new spiritual perspectives, incorporating more flexible thoughts, beliefs, and actions. Understand the red flags and triggers you experienced in your marriage, so you learn to avoid them in the future. Triggers can be dealt with and released. This is you stepping into self-sufficiency. We discover what you need to be self-sufficient and be your very best self. NO MORE WHINING OR FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF.
A regular spiritual program is helpful in this stage, as is incorporating a healthy exercise routine.
Step 5. Integrating a life of Integrity and Inspired Actions
This is when I tell you it is time to step up and firm up all your learning up to now, because you enter the most difficult and most rewarding part of the whole process. You MUST do the work here, there is no sliding through. You will completely forgive your spouse, their relatives, and yourself. You might even need to forgive your children, parents and God. Once this step is complete, you will bring more gratitude into your life and be able to live free from the burdens that accompany pain, resentment, bitterness, hurt and anger.
Your dreams start taking shape and your actions move you in those directions.
Step 6. Non-stop passion and personal development
There are a couple things going on in this step. First, we clean up any remaining issues in the legal process, with custody, visitation, finances, housing, energy drains, and communication issues with your ex and your children.
Second, we will make sure your values and rules and boundaries are in place regularly.
Third, any walls that you put up to protect yourself need to come down now. You can face your fears and know that “no matter what happens, you will be ok.”
Finally, you create a vision for your future. You are feeling hopeful, and have incorporated new healthy habits into your life. You are having fun on a regular basis, and are actually looking forward to your new life!
7. Growth and Emergence of your new ‘transcended’ self
With your support network in place, you are ready to continue developing the life you love. Your dreams of feeling peaceful and content are a reality. You have goals that are supported with further action steps. At this point, you might be deciding whether you want to date, and we can talk about other ideas that will support you in that effort. This is where you leave the cozy, supportive nest of coaching, and fly out there in the world. I will always be there to support you if you need help down the road, but at this point, you should be able to do it yourself.
Of course, I have many tools: videos, books, and audios that will help you along the way. SHOP
Here is one video you might find helpful if you are going through a divorce: