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End Notes

[1] Author Gregg Braden says a choice point is the time between the ending of one cycle and the beginning of the next. He claims that this is the final 5,125 year cycle in a 26,000 year cycle and that there is massive potential to choose the future, right now. 2012 is the choice point.

2 For more information see Spiritual Psychology: The Twelve Primary Life Lessons by Steve Rother (2004)

3 In Judaism, on Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement, forgiveness is requested. We even say to someone, if there is anything I’ve done to you in the past year that has hurt you, please forgive me. If we ask someone to forgive us three times and they refuse, it is said that we are forgiven anyway. I had hurt someone very much when we broke up. I asked for forgiveness for years and since I never got that kind of acknowledgment, I took the route of “I’m officially forgiven.” And, I had to forgive myself for causing the pain.

4 I do recognize that you might not share the same fundamental beliefs as I do. The goal here is to be accepting and flexible. Use what makes sense to you and what works for you. Use your own internal guidance system.

5 There are other spiritual practices that bring people closer to spirit, such as meditation, walking in nature, reading, yoga, studying religious texts, praying, A Course in Miracles, etc. Forgiveness is recognized as a fundamental principle in all spiritual practices.

6 The body responds to thoughts and questions and by raising an arm and asking the person to hold it strong, you can get weak or strong responses. Many doctors are using kinesiology to assist them in making their diagnoses of patients.

7 Dr. Robert Young from Australia has been studying the effects of thoughts on our biology for 25 years. “Your mental state is so very critical. Your mental state, in many ways, if it’s negative, can create more metabolic acids than the food that you’re eating. In fact, you can create two or three times more metabolic acids from your thoughts and your mental state than from ingesting acidic foods, such as dairy or animal protein.

So your thoughts are critical. Your thoughts or words do become matter and can affect your physiology in a negative or positive way. And the way your thoughts become biology is as follows: when you have a thought, that thought requires energy for the brain cells to produce that thought. As you carry on with any thought that are having, you are using energy. And when you are using energy, you produce a biological waste product called, acid. If the metabolic acids from your thoughts are not properly eliminated through the four channels of elimination – urination, perspiration, respiration and defecation – then the acids from your thoughts are moved out into your fatty tissues and connective tissues. This leads to all sorts of symptomologies such as lupus, fibromyalgia, arthritis, muscle pain, fatigue, tiredness, obesity, cancerous breasts, cancerous prostate, indigestion, acid reflux, heart burn, heart attacks, and the list goes on and on.”

8 From the website, www.CancerfightingStrategies.com, it states, “Taking medicines or supplements for cancer while your pH is highly acidic is a bit like washing dishes in a sink of dirty water, even when you put in plenty of soap, you can’t get the dishes clean.”

According to Keiichi Morishita in his book, Hidden Truth of Cancer (1972) ”when your blood starts to become acidic, your body deposits acidic substances (usually toxins) into cells to allow the blood to remain slightly alkaline. This causes your cells to become more acidic and toxic, which results in a decrease of their oxygen levels, and harms their DNA and respiratory enzymes.”

Over time, he theorizes, these cells increase in acidity and some die. These dead cells themselves turn into acids. However, some of these acidified cells may adapt in that environment. In other words, instead of dying – as normal cells do in an acid envi­ronment – some cells survive by becoming abnormal cells.

These abnormal cells are called malignant cells. Malig­nant cells do not correspond with brain function nor with our own DNA memory code. Therefore, malignant cells grow indefinitely and without order. This is cancer.

As you can see, he is describing, from a different point of view, the link between pH and cancer, a process by which low oxygen levels turn some cells cancerous. Alkaline water (including the water in cells) holds a lot of oxygen. Acidic water holds very little oxygen. So the more acidic your cells are, the less oxygenated they will be. To make matters worse, the fermentation process cancer cells use to produce energy creates lactic acid, further increasing acidity and reducing oxygen levels.

Sang Whang, in his book Reverse Aging (1991 and 2012 Kindle) points out that toxins are acidic. If your blood is too acidic, toxins will not be released from your cells into the blood. So your cells can’t be detoxified. This buildup of toxins in your cells results in acidic, poorly oxygenated cells, which can turn cancerous. He explains, “In general, degenerative diseases are the result of acid waste buildups within us. When we are born, we have the highest alkaline mineral concentration and also the highest body pH. From that point on, the normal process of life is to gradually acidify. That is why these degenerative diseases do not occur when you are young. Reverse aging requires two separate steps: chemical and physical. The first step is to lower the acidity of the body so that it can dispose of acidic wastes in the blood and cellular fluids safely and easily. The second step is to physically pull out old stored wastes into the blood stream so that they can be discharged from the body.”

As you learn about pH and cancer, you find there is a long history of reversing cancer by adding alkalinity to the body (along with your doctor’s recommendations). It is one of the basic strategies in the battle against cancer and for improving your health in general.

9 See The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter, and Miracles, by Bruce Lipton (Hay House, 2008).

10 Author of Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One (Hay House, 2012).

11 Transcending Divorce: A Guide to Personal Growth and Transformation, (2nd edition 2011)

[1]2 Virginia Commonwealth University. The University of Maryland Institute of Human Virology discovered that forgiveness lowers the stress hormone cortisol and the immune system is boosted. Furthermore, Stanford University Center for Research in Disease Prevention said, “When you hold onto the bitterness for years, it stops you from living your life fully. As it turns out, it wears out your immune system and hurts your heart.”

[1]3 Although I know you understand I am an attorney turned mediator turned coach turned forgiveness teacher, and NOT a medical doctor, I need to put in the warning that I am NOT a doctor and am NOT giving you medical opinions or treatments for any diagnosis you may have received. Go to your doctor AND if you both agree, you can choose to incorporate the suggestions in this book.

[1]4 Patti Conklin, CEO and Founder of Healing Within, Inc. teaches that color and tone are active vibrations, which means that they have the frequency necessary to shake loose cellular memory from an individual cell. Her essay can be found in Faces Behind the Pages that Inspire (2012) and her new book, God Within coming out in 2012.

[1]5 Note from Author: In an over-simplified explanation, Ho’oponopono means to make right and is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. Basically, you acknowledge the creator by saying “I am sorry,” describe what happened, ask for forgiveness, and say “I love you.” Fill that person up with love, and say or feel “I thank you.” If someone has hurt you, you can do this for yourself and them, as it is believed we are all one. If you forgive someone, you are both forgiven.

[1]6 In all my years working as a legal advocate or attorney for abuse survivors, the number one reason people gave for not leaving abusive relationships was fear of losing children. Since the abusers were omnipotent to the victims, this threat, to take the children, works to keep abused spouses prisoners in their own lives.

[1]7 http://www.terrinewlon.com/Bardo.php

[1]8 Michael says there are seven soul types and gives guidelines for understanding your type. Basically, Michael says we are one of the following: Kings, Priests, Sages, Scholars, Warriors, Artisans, or Servers. It’s hard to tell from the names what you are, you’ll need to read the book for the descriptions and questions/guidelines.

[1]9 Akashic Records, aka the Hall of Records, is the place where all the stories and lifetimes here on Earth are stored. As the veil becomes thinner, more and more people are accessing the Akashic Records. Christine Laureano is one of them.

20 If you feel like tossing this book against the wall right now, that’s okay. Toss the book and then pick it up again. You might certainly have a different spiritual belief. That is fine. Keep reading and I will give you something you can use to work through this process. We are in this together and all I want to do is help you to forgive so you can be happy again.

2113 year old author of Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl written while she was hiding in a secret annex in Holland before she was discovered and taken to Auschwitz and perished at age 15.

22 Author of Soul Centered: Transform Your Life in 8 Weeks with Meditation (Hay House 2009)

23 Holding on to guilt, shame, and self-blame serves nothing and no one and it is a useless, time-wasting behavior.

24 As a child, shame can be brought about by alienation, abandonment, rejection, physical, verbal and emotional abuse. The child learns to believe that there is something inherently wrong with him/her.

25 NY Times best selling author of Healing the Shame that Bind’s You (Revised HCI, 2005)

26 I will use ‘He’ and sometimes I will use ‘She’ to describe God. I do not believe God is one or the other, but who knows?

27 The full realization of your potential. In human terms, we might look at an ascended master as someone who is actualized. For example, even though Jeshua (Jesus) was in earth body, he knew of his own gifts, who he really was, a soul having a human experience, with the ability to heal and help others through the belief and faith that he is one with God.

28 To find a soul regression therapist near you: http://www.iblrn.org. To read more about soul regressions, I recommend reading Journey of Souls or Destiny of Souls by Dr. Michael Newton, Bringing Your Soul to Light by Dr. Linda Backman, or Many Lives, Many Masters by Dr. Brian Weiss.

29 Karma can look like a payback, a “what goes around comes around.” However, it is not actually a punishment; it is more of an evening out. For our soul’s progression, we want things to be fairer. We want to know both sides of all experiences. A good way to look at karma is that it is a natural con­sequence of our actions, or harvesting what we sow. Religious sects have varying views on karma. It is my belief that regular forgiveness and acceptance helps us to release karmic ties and move our lessons forward.

30 Peter Rengel is a spiritual counselor living in California, whose poetry has touched my heart for many years. His website is www.PeterRengel.com.

31 If we are all God’s children, then why would She take sides? We humans are irrational and illogical if we think that in a “war environment” that God would protect one side against another.

32 Some people also have ascended master guides such as Jeshua, Mary, Gandhi, Saint Germain, Krishna, Buddha, Djwahl-Kuhl, Maitreya, Quan Yin, and some have the Archangels. We have guides who have served on earth, some with us in previous incarnations, and some who have never been on earth. We also, interestingly, have guides who have specialties. For example, if you are an artist, you very well could have Rembrandt or Botticelli as one of your master guides. I know that when I was an attorney, I had a brilliant Native American Chief who helped me speak in court. Some guides are with you a life-time, others for a shorter period of time. You probably know someone who has told you a miraculous story of how they were saved from death and they do not know how it was possible, yet they feel unable to explain that something/ someone was there with them and saved their life.

33 Adapted from Cheryl Richardson’s book, Take Time for Your Life (1999).

34 For more help with this, see my book, Freedom from Abuse: Finding Yourself Again (2009).

35 You may receive an audio of some of these meditation/visualization processes when you sign up for my mailing list at www.LoriRubenstein.com.

36 Adapted from a process used by Dr. Richard Bartlett and Melissa Joy Jonsson at their Matrix Energetics Conference.

37 Although I am not “certified” in EFT, I use it often in coaching and at retreats, with fabulous outcomes. There are a number of ways to do this, with various tapping points and various word algorithms. Feel free to employ whatever you are most comfortable using.

38 Peter Rengel is a spiritual counselor living in California, whose poetry has touched my heart for many years. His other book, Seeds of Light is also filled with inspiration. He was truly awakened after a Near Death Experience in 1977 and chose to come back to tell us of the love he experienced.

39 Because I wanted this book to have the utmost integrity, each person had to agree to use their own name in the stories. This is courage, and I thank them for it.


 Self-Study and Book Club Study Aid

What were you taught about forgiveness growing up?

As a child, what did the adults around you do regarding forgiveness, holding grudges, letting go, being judgmental, and talking negatively or positively about themselves and/or others?

Is there something in your life you have always considered “unforgivable?”

Do you see that differently now? Can you describe the difference?

Is there something in your past that continues to haunt you? What will it take for you to let it go?

In chapter 2, we reviewed what forgiveness is and what it is not. Is there a forgiveness “myth” that you have held onto, such as ‘to forgive means I have to condone the behavior?’ Can you let it go; knowing now that it is not true?

As you were reading the book, did you have an ah-ha moment? What really clicked for you?

Do you believe the thoughts you think really create your future? If yes, what do you need to do/think/feel/believe to actually live like you believe this is true?

What is the hardest thing right now for you to let go of?

What is in the way of you letting go?

How would your life benefit if you did let go of it?

Go through the Living with Forgiveness Process (ARGG)

  • Accept/Acknowledge
  • Take personal Responsibility (at least for how you choose to respond)
  • Find the Gift in the situation (what did you learn)
  • Feel Gratitude for what you do have and who you are

What is the most difficult boundary you have had to set? How did you do it?

Is there a boundary you need to set with someone now? Who? Why? What is it?

Will you do it? What support do you need to do it?

What roles do guilt and shame play in your life? What does it do to you energetically? Can you commit to NOT beat yourself up for the past? What will it take for you to finally stop blaming yourself and to forgive YOU?

To maintain balance in your life, what MUST you do?

What is the most courageous thing you have ever done? How did it change your life?

If you are divorced, what is your real relationship with your ex? Are there any changes you can make? Did you do the higher self exercise? What were the gifts of your marriage and divorce? How can you honor your children’s other parent even more, or do you need to set better boundaries? What does your inner-self tell you about this?

Forgiveness is about NOT blaming anyone else for who you are and how you feel about your life. Is there a piece of your life that you are not happy with?

If yes, what do you need to change and what is the first step you need to take?

Who else do you need to forgive?

Do you continue to blame others? Can you see how it weakens you? Can you see that as long as you are blaming others, you give up your own power?

What would it look like for you to REALLY speak your truth?

How can you do your personal work, and God’s work, with even more grace in your life?

Have you ever received a miracle after forgiving? What happened?

Can you describe your “old story” of anger, bitterness, resentment and hurt without the emotional drama-trauma?

What is your “new story?”

What is the next step on your path towards loving yourself even more?


I have been so blessed to know these authors and channels and I can tell you they are of the highest integrity. They have all agreed to use their real names in their stories so that YOU the reader understand that they too have had not only difficult journeys of their own, but that they are bravely standing firm out there in the world saying, this is my story!

From deep in my heart, I thank each one of you for your beautiful contribution towards make the book such a treasure and for seeing my dream, my vision, become a reality.

Forgiveness Stories

This book would not be made possible without the contributions of people who are courageously sharing their journey to forgiveness.39 Each story is a gift, and I hope you receive the gift from these special contributors. We all need to remember that we all have stories, and our perception of those stories may be different than others. For some of the writers, it was like coming out of the closet, putting their life, their story, out there in the world to be judged by others – and that is scary. This is why I ask you to hold them in your hearts when you read their stories.


We truly are moving into the new golden age, and people who are gifted with the ability to communicate with those on the other side of the veil give us all the gift of being able to see things at a higher, more spiritual level. It gives us a perspective above and beyond what we would normally be able to receive.

In order of Introduction in the book


Tarri Otterlee

Channeling Saint Germain

Tarri is a practicing Energy Therapist, medical intuitive for twelve years and does private readings for her clients. She is Healing Touch certified and a Traditional Usui Reiki Master/Teacher. Through her extensive training in these two healing modalities she feels they are the missing link to each other and now trains her students in both.

Years ago she incorporated Healing Touch into her holistic health care, and found it so successful for her own healing that she decided to go forward in her training to help others. Tarri has always had intuitive gifts, in the 1980’s she was led to books and teachers that began her Spiritual journey. Through many years of growth and development and through her work as an Energy Therapist it led her to working with Spirit – The White Brotherhood “The Council of Light” helping and assisting her clients through deeper Spiritual healing sessions. Ten years ago Saint Germain from Spirit came to her requesting that she spiritually grow again to work with him and others from The White Christ Light to help and assist people in a greater way and to get his messages out in this time of great change of the earth which Spirit calls “The Shift of Awakening.” As she has grown through Spirit/with Spirit she teaches and shares this with others who are on their journey.

Tarri spent twenty two years in health care, during this time she was a consultant and teacher to private practices. Her consulting and seminars took her throughout the United States, Canada, South Africa and England. She now calls herself semi retired living in Sedona, Arizona and doing the work she loves and calls her practice Perfect Balance.

Contributor to Chapter 3 Forgiveness: The Key to Spiritual Enlightenment

 Dr. Earl Backman

Channeling the Light Beings

Earl Backman, Ph.D. is a former University Administrator and Corporate Executive. He is trained in mediation, conflict resolution, shamanism and soul regression. Earl is the administrator for The RavenHeart Center (www.ravenheartcenter.com); and works with his wife, Dr. Linda Backman, in coordinating the center’s spiritual offerings, which include trainings, regression sessions, workshops, classes and lectures both in the US and abroad.


In addition, Earl is a Channel – receiving guidance from three beings from another celestial realm. He offers private channeling sessions, both in person and over the phone, as well as phone group channeling sessions once a month. Dr. Backman can be reached at



Contributors to Chapter 5 Our Greatest Teacher: Relationships – Finding Wholeness and Peace Through

Lessons of Love and Letting Go

Debbie Dehm channeling Quan Yin


Debbie is a spiritual counselor, channel and tarot card reader and is available for session by telephone or in Hawaii, where she resides. She channels the Goddess of compassion, Quan Yin, who came to her ten years ago as a guide. She is also licensed in massage, reiki and reflexology.

For more information

www.compassionatehealing.biz  E-mail Debbie@compassionatehealing.biz



Susan Shammel


Susan Shammel lives in Ashland, Oregon and is a teacher, free-lance writer, and an advocate for disadvantaged youth. She has raised four teenagers and is currently developing an outreach program for women in divorce transition. She is passionate about personal growth and using adversity as a means for inner change and transformation.


Dr. Judy Chiger


Judy Chiger, MD, PhD, a holistic physician, is a teacher and guide helping professional women awaken to a healthy, balanced, energy-filled life. She leads them on a journey to discover their inner wisdom while befriending their inner critics. Dr. Judy can be contacted at www.drjudychiger.com or email@drjudychiger.com.



Michele Penn


Michele Penn lives in Sarasota, Florida, with David, the man of her dreams, where she finds great inspiration from a community rich in art-appreciation. In Peace in the Present Moment, Michele Penn’s breathtaking floral photographs add peace and a deep stillness to the wisdom of Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie. Michele’s “soul shots” are a symbol of enlightenment. Her attention to detail and her ability to capture the soul of the flower sets her apart and makes her work truly inspiring. Michele is also one of 33 authors (including Lori Rubenstein) in Faces Behind the Pages that Inspire. Read about her journey of manifesting a book with two of the most spiritual authors of our era. Her three beautiful children, Freddy, Nicole and Melanie, fill her life with inspiration. As an award-winning photo­grapher, inspiring speaker and business owner, she wants to enrich other people’s lives.

www.CreativeElegancebyMichele.com   www.PeaceInThePresentMoment.net www.facebook.com/peaceinthepresentmoment



Barry Costa


Barry Costa is raising his son who is now well adjusted. He has continued to pursue spiritual endeavors such as Shamanism, Matrix Energetics and other forms of healing.

Favorite quote . . . “When you change the way you look at things. The things you look at change.” For more information go to www.BarryCosta.com


Terri Newlon

Channeling Djwhal Khul


Rev. Terri Newlon has channeled Djwhal Khul since 1980. She provides spiritual guidance online through teleseminars, private sessions, long-distance broad­casting, 12 Ray Attunements and free weekly spirituality articles. Terri has trained hundreds of people to channel their own higher self, ascended masters and angels. She shows other sensitives like herself how to turn on and off their psychic abilities in order to maintain a balanced life. The channeled teachings are practical, everyday spirituality that make living a better life easy. They are also very affordable. Terri lives in Patagonia, Arizona, USA with her partner Larry and their 3 beloved cats, ROQ, Rainbow and Sage. For more information: www.TerriNewlon.com


Contributors to Chapter 6 Forgiving the Unforgivable

Brenda Adelman


Brenda Adelman has a Master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology, is an award-winning actor with a one-woman show about her life story and is the recipient of a Hero of Forgiveness award from the Hawaii International Forgiveness Project.

From the place of openness and strength she wrote a one-person show based on her life, titled My Brooklyn Hamlet, which she has performed internationally. She started teaching the steps she took to forgive to trainers in the domestic violence field, college students and youth at risk and has been blessed with the best relationship of her life. As her heart opened, so did her world. She speaks & leads teleseminars on The Heart & Art of Forgiveness and is a transformational life coach. Download her free e-course, The Five Top Reasons to Never Forgive and Why You Must at:  www.forgivenessandfreedom.com



Immaculée Ilibagiza, Left to tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust (2007, Hay House, Inc., Carlsbad CA) story told with permission.


Christine Laureano

Channeling the Akashic Records and telling her story


Christine Laureano (Ba6 Botanicals’ Found & Chief Formulator, Entrepreneur, Life Coach and Co-author of the Amazon International Bestseller Embracing Your Authentic Self) LOVES to stand on a soapbox when it comes keeping it real and keeping it natural. Through her all natural, handcrafted skin care line, she shows women how to love the skin they’re in because confidence is key in creating a Buff & Beautiful Life.


Christine has been there in her journey as small business owner, mentor/coach and entrepreneur. She found what made her stand out in the crowd of many and now helps other inspired women to create their lives, their businesses and their well being with intention and purpose. Christine’s presentations are ideal for conference keynotes, breakout sessions, workshops and women’s networking meetings.

Website:    www.Ba6Botanicals.com      Christine@Ba6Botanicals.com

Twitter:     www.Twitter.com/CELaureano   Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/Ba6Botanicals

Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/christinelaureanocoaching


Sharon Lund, DD


Sharon Lund, DD is an international speaker who has shared her life experiences and blessings to audiences throughout the United States, Canada, Europe, Russia and Japan. She has appeared on Oprah, 48 Hours, Eye on America, CNN, I Survived: Beyond and Back, and accepted an invitation from President Clinton to speak at the White House. Sharon was featured in the November 07 issue of “O” the Oprah Magazine. She is the author of the award-winning book Sacred Living, Sacred Dying: A Guide to Embracing Life and Death, as well as the author of The Integrated Being: Techniques to Heal Your Mind-Body-Spirit, and There Is More . . . 18 Near-Death Experiences. You may contact Sharon through e-mail at Sharon@SacredLife.com and for more information www.SharonLund.com


Eva Kor’s story from The Forgiveness Project used with permission from Ms. Kor.


Contributors to Chapter 7 Self Empowerment: Forgiving Ourselves and Forging Ahead Beyond Guilt and Shame

Mary Costanza


Some of her favorite quotes are, “Courage is looking fear right in the eye and saying, ‘Get the hell out of my way, I’ve got things to do!’“ ~ Craig Kurz

Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free til they find someone just as wild to run with them. ~ Unknown

Some of us aren’t meant to belong. Some of us have to turn the world upside down and shake the hell out of it until we make our own place in it.

~ Elizabeth Lowell

http://www.facebook.com/marykcostanza   http://www.facebook.com/marycostanzaheartandsoul


Dr. Earl Backman

Channeling The Light Beings


Earl is a Channel – receiving guidance from three beings from another celestial realm. He offers private channeling sessions, both in person and over the phone, as well as phone group channeling sessions once a month. He can be reached at





June Sedarbaum

Eugene, Oregon


Robby LeBlanc


Robby LeBlanc is an Author, Speaker, and Recording Artist. For More Information: www.RobbyLeBlanc.com



Charlene Stutes

Family Advocacy Consultant




Channeling the Divine Union


Aazura is an author, teacher, healer and founder of the New Human Project™ dedicated to conscious transformation and awakening the heart. Aazura is recognized for the Acceleration Process™ for rapid freedom from 3D conditioning and belief structures of separation and limitation. She has been a messenger for Divine Union – Yeshua & Magdalene, teaching only love and healing our relationship with God, self and others. She is available for private sessions in person and via phone. Workshops & classes are offered. Aazura resides in Sedona, AZ. For more information:



Contributors to Chapter 8 Forgiving God

Shelly Collier

Cottonwood, AZ



Becca Tokarczyk, PT, M.Ed., IHT-MP

Beyond Grief, LLC




The goal of creating a book with a high level of integrity and spiritual consciousness does not happen alone. Each time I sat down, I felt guides and angels with me, guiding me to say what needed to be said. With deep gratitude and appreciation, I thank them.

My husband, Kevin, is my greatest supporter and the love of my life. I feel so loved, supported and taken care of, that the gratitude in my heart just spills over when I think about how fortunate I am to be so loved. On a more practical level, he gave me the space and time I needed to write, supported my self-imposed deadlines, and had to incessantly listen to me change my mind and process the title for this book. He gave me a great gift by helping me feel less embarrassed about my writing by reviewing drafts and correcting my grammar before I sent chapters off to my editor.

My editor, Lori Noble, is a forgiveness guru. I acknowledge and honor her spiritual practice which has brought her to a place where she herself is a forgiveness expert. Her support during the writing of this book was invaluable. It is my hope that I can encourage her to put her own writings out into the world for the public to appreciate. She is a great teacher in her own right and I am honored that she has agreed to work with me and support my vision for this project. She is like a sister to me.

I thank all the Channels: Aazura, Christine Laureano, Debbie Dehm, Earl Backman, Ph.D., Tarri Otterlee, and Terri Newlon, whose channelings have contributed to raising the vibration of this book in exactly the way I was hoping. They bring a beautiful gift to the world by allowing us to see and hear from the other side – our home.

The brave and courageous story tellers: Susan Shammel, Christine Laureano, Becca Tokarczyk, Charlene Stutes, Mary Costanza, Sharon Lund, Brenda Adelman, Barry Costa, Robby LeBlanc, Dr. Judy Chiger, Michele Penn, Shelly Collier, and June Sedarbaum. They gave the gift of being vulnerable, going public and opening their hearts so that you could learn from them, and understand how the gift of forgiveness can transform your life.

Christina Lufkin, author of “Living with Purpose, Dying with Dignity” for the name ‘Living with Forgiveness’ which has become my 4-step process, and for introducing me to Sharon Lund, who has become a dear friend and the publisher of this book.

Sharon Lund who has an incredible amount of patience, vision and wisdom, which she never withheld from me. Thank you for offering your publishing house, which is a beautiful force in the world, I am honored to be one of your selected authors.

On behalf of all the story and channel authors, we acknowledge YOUR courageous journey through pain into acceptance and forgiveness. We hold you big and it is with gratitude that all these stories are shared with you.

Lisa Love, whose ability to give life to a vision through her artistic talents, made this book cover a piece of art that truly makes me proud and speaks to the FEELING of the book.

Gail Alexander who designed a Mandela I used while writing this book for inspiration. It came with this message for the book: “Clearing the waves of forgiveness to help become whole, healed and live from a place of grace within your heart. It is about breathing in and moving through all the layers of forgiveness and reconnecting to your soul, spirit and divine spark.”

My sister Staci for transcribing channeled messages.

Sunshower Rose for the adorable caricature of me with the dog, to help people remember the ARGG Living with Forgiveness Process.

Finally, I thank my parents, Larry and Karen, for being my champions from the other side of the veil, coming here to earth and being willing participants as young, naïve parents to a child with the potential to grow up and change people’s view of divorce, abuse and forgiveness. I realize that if it were not for them, I would not have become the outspoken advocate I became. It’s a great reminder of the paradoxes of this world, that sometimes our greatest supporters are the most unlikely ones.


About the Author   



Lori S. Rubenstein is a passionate lifetime learner in the art of forgiveness. She has been blessed with the gift of getting to practice forgiveness her whole life. She believes that our life path, our journey, is exactly what we need to meet our soul’s desire, thus, there is a purpose and a reason for everything. Her life set her up perfectly to be a beacon – lighting the path for others to find their way back to love. Whether she holds you with grace and love, or a “tough-love-tell-it-like-it-is” attitude, you know this compassionate warrior has your back!

Lori’s path included being raised by a teenaged mom in the projects and at age 4, her parents divorce. She visited with her father and step-mom weekly. Interestingly, after her mother remarried, they moved to a wealthy community so she was able to experience being both wealthy and impoverished. As a wild out of control teen, she spent time looking for love in all the wrong places, ending with a stint of one year in a drug rehabilitation center. She would not change one single event in her life, as it is the fabric of who she is and gives her the compassion to help others move through their own transitions.

After practicing law as a family attorney for 18 years, Lori is an example of someone who walks her talk. Twice divorced and having raised her two children, she is now in a new marriage to the man she has loved and adored for the last 6 years. Lori is honored to witness people’s growth as she speaks to groups about forgiveness and moving through the transition from victim to victor!

Other books by Lori include:

Toss your baggage and start building your forgiveness muscles

Toss your baggage and start building your forgiveness muscles

  • Transcending Divorce: A Guide for personal Growth and Transformation
  • Conscious Relationships
  • Freedom from Abuse: Finding Yourself Again
  • Co-authoring a best seller, Wake-up Live the Life You Love
  • Co-authoring The Faces Behind the Pages that Inspire

 To learn more about Lori, visit her Web site at www.LoriRubenstein.com for books, classes, retreats, meditations, visualizations, and workshop information.